SHAUMBRA HEARTBEAT
✨AI Generated
You Have One Job
By Jean Tinder
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Shaumbra are busy people! Most of the ones I know always have a lot going on, whether it looks like it or not. From Realm Workers wondering why they were so tired from doing mostly ‘nothing’ (but were actually quite busy “out there”) to the Earth Workers always going-going-going in this realm (the category I typically find myself in), Shaumbra aren’t exactly lazy. Whether you’re a DO-er or a BE-er in this realm, or some perfectly balanced combination, having many “irons in the fire” at once is just how most of us seem to be wired. We are the ones who came first to the planet, the movers and shakers and leaders who said, “Hold my beer!” and jumped in the deep end. Sure, we were pulled down by the gravitational undertow, drowned a few too many times, and got super distracted by all the interesting stuff in this reality. But, gritty angels that we are, we never completely forgot our mission.
Now that we have the skills to surf those gravity waves, the senses to play in all the realms, the callouses to survive the inevitable tumbles, and the persistence to keep at it, what about the incurable penchant to take on everything? A ragtag bunch of pirates, we thrive on challenging assignments and hair-raising missions; you know, stuff like spawning galaxies (of aspects) and facing down dragons. In the jungles of time and space, you’ll find us bushwhacking at the front of the line, never dawdling back in the dust. But after scattering ourselves across here and hereafter, the time has come to prioritize. It’s okay to slow down a little and stop carrying the world’s liberation on our shoulders. There’s nothing left to prove, and everything left to enjoy. In other words, it’s time to tie up all the loose ends of this tangled tapestry that we’ve been working on, stand back, and see what our masterpiece is all about.
As it turns out, every thread leads to Home and every mission boils down to one simple thing. No matter how energized or bone-weary you might feel, no matter how many brilliant insights or stinky brainfarts you come up with, there’s only one job that actually matters now: cherishing your human self.
I’m not talking about basic self-care that keeps you on the planet. That’s kind of important, but I mean finally putting yourself first and only doing things that help you thrive! This includes stuff like insisting that your relationships are healthy, balanced and supportive; giving dear body exactly what it needs; letting your human rest or play or sleep or just stop when desired; standing up for yourself with the honor and respect you deserve; giving acceptance and encouragement to yourself – and receiving it! – at every opportunity; dropping the inner shame and critical self-talk; and so on. You get the idea.
It’s basic stuff, especially for Love 2.0-inspired Shaumbra, but we still hold remarkably high expectations for ourselves and tend to take on a lot more than we need to. Self-love is a great concept, right up there with inspiring consciousness, shining our light and, you know, saving the world. But do we really get it yet? Is taking care of your human REALLY the most important thing in your life? No one else can do that for you, nor – it must be said – can you do it for other people. But a lot of us still have the default setting of looking after everyone else and their feelings first. Or maybe that’s just me. Hopefully, you don’t relate to this at all. But I do know a lot of us who still have a hard time being so self-full that, without a second thought, we let others be responsible for their own selves.
So, instead of focusing on all the stuff going on in our lives here and out there, let’s distill it down to one single priority: Self-love. It’s literally the key to everything else you want, and the whole reason you’re here! However, we also know that self-love doesn’t come easily, which might be because we’re looking at it from the perspective of old, unrealistic notions about love.
A few weeks ago, someone posted this 10-minute video in the CC group on Facebook. (The entire video is excellent, but the important part begins at about 5 minutes in.) In the clip, best-selling author Matthew Hussey explains that we’ve based the whole idea of loving ourselves on the model of romantic love – falling in love with someone and hoping it lasts, even while familiarity tends to replace the magic. There are a lot of pitfalls in this kind of love and it’s hard to maintain, particularly for self, and before you know it, you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’. To solve this, Matthew points out that we need “a more robust model” of love and brings up the parent-child relationship.
When you ask a parent, “Why do you love your kid?” they don’t give all the reasons why the child is worthy of love. They simply say, “It’s my child – of course I love them!” What a great model! Imagine someone asking, “Why do you love yourself?” and you answer, “Because I’m mine! I belong to me. I love myself because it’s my job.”
In the video, Matthew invites you to imagine that on the first day of your life, you’re given a human. “Now you’ve got a human, and your job – your only job – is to take care of that human.” You may take on other jobs, but this one lasts your whole life, to “Look after them, nurture them, support them, encourage them, stand up for them, and try to give this human the best life you can.”
✨AI Generated
You see, true self-love isn’t a romantic feeling or sweet emotion. Those come and go like the wind. Loving yourself is a choice, a moment-by-moment decision you’re faced with every day. It’s your one job, and if there was ever a time to do a good job at your job, this is it.
What does it mean in a practical sense? Well, everything! One of the ways I’ve learned to love myself is to take care of my body. She (and I) got tired of all the extra weight I made her carry around for the last 30 years. In a true facepalm moment, one day I realized that nobody else was imposing it on me and therefore I was the only one who could change it. Of course, doing so meant I had to face all the old patterns and fears and triggers and stuck energies that I’d buried in my body. But I did that, and now the love my self feels for having transformed my body is astonishing.
When life has been difficult in the past, I’ve spent years wishing and waiting for things to change. I mean, they’ve told us many times that “It comes to you!” so where is it? I spent decades feeling trapped by responsibilities and unconscious life choices. I spent lifetimes withholding joy until some invisible goal could be reached. But we’re here! This is it, and it’s time to give ourselves all the love and joy we’ve been wishing for.
For me, it was December 2007 when the penny finally dropped. After a lifetime of constant struggle to survive, of being told I should have more faith (in Jesus, in the universe, in Tobias – anyone but myself), and of wishing my magical ship of abundance would finally come in, I was fed up. One day I just said, “No more! It’s time to DO something about this. It’s time to take care of myself!” I’d never felt clearer about that, and there was finally nobody around to talk me out of it, so I decided that the moment I returned from visiting my kids for Christmas, I would apply for a waitressing job. Exactly two days later, I was offered the job of my dreams and never looked back.
Adamus insists that we stop suffering. It’s useless in every way and does nobody any good. But the fact is, if I love myself, I simply won’t do or believe anything that make me suffer, because love and suffering are incompatible.
After being taught I was a worthless sinner throughout childhood, I had a lot to learn about self-love. And now, I have a lot to say about it – but only for those who want to hear. I’d really like to help the people around me love themselves, but darn it, I can’t. I can only come back to my one job – again and again and again – and maybe one day they’ll be inspired by that. This is a job I must work at 24/7, but it brings immeasurable riches.
My job isn’t to inspire you, although that might happen occasionally. It’s not to fulfill my work duties, although they are usually quite fulfilling to me. It’s not to take care of my kids; I kept them alive long enough and they can do that now. My one job isn’t even to be a responsible adult, something I’ve been working at since I was 5 years old. My one single job is to love myself. It’s the only thing that matters, and when that obligation is fulfilled, everything else literally takes care of itself.
In that video Matthew asks a question: “What if you wake up and ask yourself, ‘What would I do today, what decisions would I make today if I was trying to give my human the best life I could give them?”
How do you answer that? It’s your human, after all, no one else’s. And your one job is to love it. You’ve got this!
The best thing I have ever done is to begin to challenge my belief systems, which has brought me to the point of your article…knowing me, and loving me. I am enough because I AM. Thanks to Adamus, Geoffrey, Linda, you, and Crimson Circle for genuinely demonstrating what love looks like. The Present is so exciting!
Yes! Yes! Making the choice to love thyself in every moment is our one job! Can’t say it’s been even close to a smooth ride in my own journey towards self love but I’ve come such a long way! Thank you for sharing part of your own journey and thank you for all you do for Shaumbra! And it’s so nice to be able to hear your voice narrating your article. ❤️ ❤️And by the way, I giggled hard at the “ you’ll find us bushwhacking at the front of the line” – got a mental picture of it. Yep, that’s Shaumbra alright 😂
” I giggled hard at the “ you’ll find us bushwhacking at the front of the line” – got a mental picture of it. Yep, that’s Shaumbra alright 😂”
LOOOL – I love that! You’re so right about it.
Jean, your article is gold!
❤️❤️❤️🫶
Yes, yes and yes! This was so good. And such perfect timing for me.
Dear Jean, what a beautiful, vivid reminder, thank you. Today I was watching myself, when I answered my niece`s ranting about bad humans in general. In that moment I didn´t feel this old “teacher´s” responsibility as a knowledgeable Shaumbra to show her a different perspective. I said that I can comprehend her explanations, everyone has good reasons for his focus.
I felt no pull to show her another perspective. I knew without thinking about it that there is no desire for good news. These are small things but for me it is a great sign that I love myself too much for outworn teacher roles. Just love and shine…
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Tasts very goooooooooood!!!!!!!
Dear Jean ,
I am only able to give you thanks for your super article here with 💗🙏🏿💗🙏🏿💗
Amazing. I am doing the same thing, realizing that nobody is imposing anything on me, i need to put myself first
Jean – you have done it again. Made me feel special – gave me some answers to questions I didn’t know I had.
Glad to see that you’re wearing your Wizard sparkly cloak quite well – looks good on you – a perfect fit 🙂
🙂
Beautiful article. And the most wonderful thing right now is knowing that everything that prevented the love of being human, the joy of being human, living an extraordinary experience for my I Am, is already crumbling, collapsing in my life. What pure love there is in all this.
Esta en el aire, un intenso aroma a LIBERTAD. Hermoso Jean
🙏🏻⚜️ so clear and profound !!!
LOVELY! THANK YOU!
Dear Jean, thank you very much for this lovely article and the link.
For many decades I kept thinking that the only meaningful saying on my gravestone would be “she was always tired!” Of course I was always very busy, both professionally in a very demanding job and in my private life too. I was a well-trained servant with correspondingly high demands from family, work and friends until I retired, when I made a conscious decision to put an end to it. It was a great challenge to free myself from the neediness of those around me and a real war with some people. Self-love is everything, every archetype in the human spectrum of experience alone, mother, father, lover, child, healer, priest, artist, hero… God. Everything we are to ourselves. I think the list is endless.
so klar und so schön :-))
Wonderful article Jean. Puts it in perspective. 🙂
Thanks Jean, this is a great article. And, I really appreciated the video link on self-love by that Matthew guy.
I had no kids for a lot of reasons, one of them being feeling unable to raise him/her in a world so full of suffering… but now, with this brillant article I read for the third time 🥰🥰🥰 I realize I can bring unconditional parental love to the old-baby-me, and yes this is a full time job after an exhausting life of hate of myself leading to exaggerated dedication to others, but what a joy to fulfill it now with ease and grace ! Thank you Beloved Jean 💝💝💝
Dear Christine, what a truly beautiful realization! 💖
Sin duda alguna la montaña que nos tapa el sol es nuestra falta de amor por nosotros mismos ,nunca lo sentí desde muy muy niña , mi hogar fue disfuncional por ende no entendí que es el amor, pero aprendí a darlo de una manera inimaginable a mis hijos, hoy estoy en una encrucijada de mi vida y leer tu artículo me hace ver aún con más claridad el por qué de mi situación,no se amarme a mi misma ,como empezar? Como sentir ese sentimiento que estuvo ausente en mi vida? Es hora de reclamarlo y derribar esa montaña 🗻 gracias querida Jean no imaginas cuánto me ayudan tus palabras gracias ☺️❤️🌹💜💜🌹🌹
Thank you Jean. I was in need of these beautiful words.
Mais um artigo maravilhoso e inspirador. Obrigada Jean.
Całym sercem dziekuję Jean
Twój artykuł jest genialny , cudowny i pełen światła
bardzo ze mną rezonuje
Uściski z polski!!!
I have been listening to your article and to the YouTube video several times. Great! Here my conclusions:
This is the best start for Love.2 for me. First loving myself and then it radiates out to the so-called loved ones and finally it encompasses the whole World (wrong: the whole of creation! Including Adamus and his “PuhLeiadians”)
And that being so, I can tranquilly live my little live, do what I want to do and feeling that indeed “all is well in all of creation”.
… I have even managed to retire officially from my job as a mother, my youngest having successfully left highschool this summer…. :))))
Thank you dear Jean for yet another great article.
A truly wonderful article, Jean. I am truly inspired. Thank you for sharing in such a clear, fun way.