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Relationships
(Or… What the Hell Happened to Love?)
By Geoffrey Hoppe
A conversation with Geoffrey Hoppe & Adamus Saint-Germain
Geoff: Dear Adamus, I was all set to write something fun and uplifting this month. Maybe something about consciousness, energy, Presence… something safe. Belle, the Shaumbra Service Dog, even offered to write the article with me. And then you show up with one word: Relationships. Really?
Adamus: Of course. Because that’s where Shaumbra still get tangled. You can talk about enlightenment all day long, but put Shaumbra into a relationship… and suddenly all that wisdom disappears faster than free wine at a Crimson Circle party.
Geoff: That’s… unfortunately accurate. Especially the part about the wine.
There’s probably no topic more charged, more confusing, and more emotionally loaded than relationships, especially romantic ones. For Shaumbra, it’s amplified, because we’re no longer willing to tolerate the old dynamics, but we’re not entirely sure what replaces them. Many Shaumbra still feel the desire for a relationship—not casual or superficial, but something real, deep, conscious and intimate. A true partner, someone to share life with. But at the same time, there’s hesitation. A big hesitation. Because we’ve been there. We’ve felt the intensity, the passion, the connection… and then watched it slowly—or sometimes explosively—fall apart. And that’s where Adamus steps in and says something most people don’t want to hear.
Adamus: Most of your relationships weren’t about love. They were about karma. Period.
Geoff: You’re not easing into this one, are you?
Adamus: Why would I? You didn’t come here for comfort. You came here for clarity.
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For lifetimes, relationships have been built on unresolved energy—past-life entanglements, old agreements, unfinished business. You meet someone and feel that immediate pull, that magnetic attraction, that “I’ve known you before” sensation, and you call it love. Adamus calls it something else: “Love at first bite.” It’s that overwhelming attraction that feels destined, fated, meant to be… and then, a few months or years later, you’re wondering how you ended up in the same emotional mess you swore you’d never repeat again. The same patterns, arguments and emotional triggers. Different person… same damn story. And yes, it created experience. It gave you something to feel, something to react to, something to try to fix. But now that pattern is breaking down—not because something went wrong, but because you’re no longer unconscious enough to keep playing it.
Geoff: So what happens if someone is already in one of these karmic relationships—and it’s not exactly blissful?
Adamus: Then stop trying to fix it. That’s the addiction.
That’s the uncomfortable part, because the instinct is always to improve it. Communicate better. Be more conscious. Be more patient. Try harder. Do better. Maybe read one more relationship book or attend one more workshop that promises to “transform your connection.” But if the relationship is fundamentally karmic, all that effort just keeps the loop looping.
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So what do you do? You become aware—not emotionally reactive or mentally analytical, just aware. Aware of the patterns, the energy exchange and how you’ve been hooked into it. And then—you stop feeding it. Not dramatically or with a big speech or with some grand exit designed to prove how enlightened you are. You simply stop engaging in the old way. You stop reacting, stop trying to fix, save, or manage the other person. And that’s when the real shift happens. Either the relationship begins to dissolve, or it transforms into something entirely different—but it will not remain the same.
Adamus: Karma requires participation. Stop participating, and watch how fast the whole thing collapses.
Now here’s where it gets really honest. When those old dynamics start falling apart, many Shaumbra don’t feel relief right away—they feel empty. The relationships have been the primary way you’ve experienced connection, validation, even identity. When that falls away, the question isn’t just “What now?” It’s, “Do I even want another relationship at all?” This is where we step into completely new territory, because what’s emerging now isn’t a better version of the old relationship—it’s a completely different paradigm.
Adamus calls it Love 2.0, and it has nothing to do with the emotional rollercoaster you’ve been calling love for lifetimes. This is not love that needs someone else to exist, not love that depends on behavior, and not love that rises and falls depending on how you’re being treated that day. This is love that comes from within—self-contained, sovereign and uncompromising.
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Geoff: That sounds beautiful… but also a little isolating.
Adamus: Only if you’re still addicted to needing someone else to feel whole.
Let’s get very blunt for a moment. Most people don’t actually want love. They want validation. They want comfort. They want someone to tell them they’re okay. And when they don’t get that, they call it a “bad relationship.”
Adamus: You weren’t looking for love. You were looking for someone to help build and confirm your identity. There’s a big difference.
Now let’s address the question many Shaumbra are quietly asking: “What if I never have another romantic relationship in this lifetime?” Let’s not sugarcoat it—that possibility is very real. It’s not because you failed, or because something is wrong, but because you’ve moved beyond the old model.
Adamus: You’re not afraid of being alone. You’re afraid of no longer having someone to distract you from yourself.
Take that in. Because loneliness isn’t the absence of another person—it’s the absence of connection with yourself. And for lifetimes, relationships have been the perfect distraction… from yourself. When you begin to allow this deeper relationship with yourself—this Love 2.0—you start to feel something very different: your own presence, your own energy, your own consciousness. It’s not an idea, but rather a feeling of something real, intimate, and immediate. And in that, loneliness doesn’t just fade—it becomes irrelevant.
That doesn’t mean relationships disappear. It means they are no longer necessary. If one comes into your life now, it won’t be karmic, won’t be based on need, won’t be about completing or fixing each other. It will be two sovereign beings choosing to share experience—no dependency, no emotional contracts, and no hidden agendas. And yes, that can feel almost too simple.
Geoff: So no Hollywood romance?
Adamus: Hollywood is fantasy built on dysfunction. If you want drama, watch a movie. If you want consciousness, stop trying to recreate one.
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So here’s the real question—not “Where is my partner?” and not “When will I meet the right one?” but: “Am I willing to be with myself—fully, honestly, without distraction?” Because until that answer is yes, no relationship will ever satisfy you. Not really.
Take a deep breath. Drop the search, drop the expectation, drop the quiet fear that something—or someone—is missing. Feel into this moment. You’re here. You’re aware. You exist. And in that, you are already in the most profound, intimate, inescapable relationship you will ever have.
Adamus: And if that’s not enough for you… no one else ever will be.
That’s the end of the illusion, and the beginning of something real.
Love on, dear Shaumbra.
Gostei muito. Claro e direto.
Yep, been there, done that, now Love 2.0 / Atma Prema!
I agree deeply and I am so grateful for the confirmation Admus , because I am living that most profound intimate inescapable true relationship with myself more than 15 years now without feeling lonley or sad 😍 But for my Family members and environment people I Am the most „ exotic“ one that lives alone but is not motivated or longing to change that 😅
Never met someone in my life who confirmed so clearly my feelings/ experiences like you Adamus 👍🙏Thank you deeply Geoffrey for this great article 👍🙏❣️
Благодарю, Джеффри ❤️!
My wonderful husband of 52 years went to his new adventures in Nirvana 14 years ago. I am so thankful for my memories of all we experienced together. At 87, I am thankful for my great health, our sons and grandchildren and keep telling the Universe the only thing that would make my life better would be for Jim to be here. Not long ago, son Seth said, “Mom – I feel sorry for you because you have lost many family members and friends.”
I replied, “That is when you need to be your own best friend.” Thank you for this reminder. Blessings to all from Janet Lee Meisinger
I never imagined myself as being the weird recluse lady but now I am comfortable in that skin. My neighbors attempts to set me up with someone they know has stopped, thankfully. It has become hard to even imagine giving up my freedom. I am even now allowing the few people I still have a connection with, drift away. And it feels appropriate.
This would have sounded very sad a few years ago, but I couldn’t be happier!
Thanks Geoff for the opportunity to reflect on this topic.❤️
Amazingly real , beautiful, touching!!
I live this type of questions answers!!
Thank you for sharing my dear Geoffrey !! Love ❤️ 💎🩵💜🩷🌸💜
Indeed, been aware of this my whole life – but karma did bring me to my knees more than once. However, been without a partner for some years now and loved getting clear with myself and the clearer i got the more i liked being with me. It is true there is nothing better than a good conversation with another person over a cup of tea and then off to your own space. It is not about being alone, it’s about getting to know thyself, getting to the root of who you are as a significant, intelligent, empowered individuated expression of source – love 20 – and resonating with that energetic signature out to the world.
What you said, dear Geoffrey, is finally true for me. Somehow, I always doubted whether I could ever be satisfied without a partner, but today I am very happy to say that I feel so fulfilled within myself that it no longer matters to me whether I am in a relationship or not. Because a relationship in itself doesn’t—and cannot—bring anything ‘inside.’ If I ever enter into a relationship again, it can only be a beautiful addition and must never be an obstacle to being with myself, because that is what is most precious to me.
Thank you very much for your beautiful article and reflection!
Mulțumesc,Geoffrey.Iubirea 2.0 e ÎMPLINITOARE și chiar TANDRĂ,fără alt participant.
After my wife passed away I was 77 years old, for two days I morned. I always felt she would easily out live me being 9 years younger and a professional medical person. I had no plans what to fo if she went first. on the third day, all the dark energy vanished. I felt like she was still with me and was shopping and would be home shortly. Four years later my path crossed Crimson Circle and the Shrouds of Adamus. After a year of listening to all the monthly teachings as fast as I could play them I discovered myself waiting to be acknowledge finally. Wow, what a realization. The old longing for another mate vanished. I was that mate. I would not turn my back on another mate that mirrowed me and I mirrowed her. My advise stop ignoring your self taking baby steps that are genuine.❤️ Allow the miracle to know thy self while your still breathing.❤️
Dear Geoff,
great article, just in right time😊
Searching for validation through the relationship… wow, that’s really helpful.
Thank you
Hi, this is wonderful, I really feel the freedom in this, and the challenge, of course, but ultimate freedom. And the love staying with you. Couldn’t be much better.
Grazie di cuore amici miei ,cosi perfetto per me in questo momento ,grazie di cuore
het is niet te geloven. woensdagavond werd ik me bewust van mijn relatie die al 60 jaar duurt.
en plots heel helder wordt. dit moet anders.
was dus nu serieus op zoek naar een antwoord. andere invulling.
dat antwoord lees ik nu, veel dank dat het in het nederlans is.
en ja ,daar kan ik wat mee.
dat wordt een uitdaging.
och, iedere dag gebeurt er in deze huidige wereld wel iets nieuws.
het uitgebreide crimson-circle nieuws wordt me de laatste tijd echt te veel .
maar hier ben ik blij mee, dank jullie wel.
Excellently expressed this unique love , so the miracle is to keep being alive , anew… that is may appear a simple action , but it is more real action , this is due to the residual carmma living in your cells and forming patterns, so being alone you have to be aware of your residual patterns, so still you are not alone as you imagined.. only when you feel you are going through them easily
.. then it becomes a simple action .. and your aloneness gets nearer to your permanent sovereignty.. without any self distractions…
Thank you my boss Geoff. for inspiring me with your sharing.
Jeg har været sammen med min mand siden 2013. Vi var som dag og nat. For et halvt års tid siden. Kom vi til et punkt hvor der skulle tages en beslutning om hvad vi ville med vores forhold. Han bemærkede at jeg havde forandret mig fuldstændig og at en ny version af mig var begyndt at komme fra. På det tidspunkt begyndte han at forandre sig. Den nye udgave af mig var som at møde et nyt menneske. Han havde to muligheder. Enten kunne han forlade mig eller også kunne han elske mig for den jeg var. Jeg forsatte min forandring og han begyndte lige så stille at forandre sig. Nu lever vi sammen med en ny forståelse af hinanden. Vi er blevet samme og en ny kærlighed er begyndt at blomstre. Der er ingen krav til hinanden. Han forstå når jeg går ind i en ny proces. Og lige nu hvor jeg befinder mig i ingen ting. Føler han ikke et fravær fra mig men et nyt nærvær. Havde jeg set dette komme. Bestemt nej. Jeg havde forberedt mig på at vi nok gik hver sin vej. Men her er vi to sjæle på vej på vores egen oplysning. Ikke samme sted men med respekt for hinandens rejse. Tak for den smukke artikel.
Thank you
Thank you Geoff for this great article, not safe, not fun per se, but definitely uplifting. It feels good to see how being alone for over fourty years has become not only easier but also a doorway to myself, my beauty of being human and being soul. Yes, I would like to share that with a special someone, but not now, perhaps in five years or so …
And thank Shaumbra for their reaction. It still feels good to read similar experiences: familiair, kinship, community.
And so it is! 😊💛
“put Shaumbra into a relationship… and suddenly all that wisdom disappears”
So the solution is no relationship?
Wouldn’t it be bold to keep the relationship AEND to keep the wisdom?
Yes of corse it is possible 🥰
Well ……
Nobody can say you and Linda weren’t prepared to walk the talk!
Chapeau to you both …. xxxx
I prefer being friends with Masters. Sometimes they stay away from me, but this is their choice and I respect it. Love 2.0 rises up very easily in a friendship. And I can still observe myself without judgement. And this also doesn’t matter. No necessities, just the kindness and joy of inner vastness. It is priceless and beyond words.
Thank you. This clarity!
I appreciate the honesty and truth revealed in this intimate conversation between Adamus and Geoff. Their words resonate deeply within me. Thank you for sharing.
So crear… So simple… So butiful…
Thank you Geoff and Adamus. Love on!
Indeed, so simple that it becomes difficult! Well written and the strong interaction between Geoff and Adamus is lovingly!
We, two Shaumbras live together. But we both want to be alone time to time. I do my thing, and he does he’s. Long talks what it is to be Shaumbra. We don’t have any other friends, and that is Our own choice. We are not together because we can’t be alone, but because we meant to be together in this lifetime. We both had Our share what is to be with someone who don’t get You. And because we don’t know any other Shaumbra here. So it is just two of us. And we can’t make compromise the way we live and think. There is no going back now. This is It, living in master life. And in a way we are alone, the two of us.
Wow, just wow. I needed to hear that. And of course, when I ask, I always receive. Thank you, both of you!
Mmm—simple, profound, true.
“That doesn’t mean relationships disappear. It means they are no longer necessary. If one comes into your life now…..It will be two sovereign beings choosing to share experience—no dependency, no emotional contracts, and no hidden agendas. And yes, that can feel almost too simple.”
So true.
Thank you Geoff and Adamus for this beautiful article!