Receiving it All
The other day, everything around me went to hell. Well, not everything, but a lot. A couple people in my family got into such a fight while they were out that one made the other walk home. The laundry room filled overnight with literally hundreds of flies (maybe one of those critter “toys” my cat brought in died somewhere?). Several work-related challenges came up all at once. And my ancient hot water heater died. All within 24 hours! My personal reality was fine, but people and things around me were falling apart.
It was the last day of production in Colorado as we prepared for the Light of the Merlin webcast from Hawaii. Things had gone sideways at home the night before, and now everybody seemed wound up tight at the studio too. Must’ve been something in the air! Before we started recording, I called the plumbing company and arranged for someone to come out that afternoon. Then I felt things begin to smooth out as we recorded a magnificent message from Merlin. And just as that finished up, I got the call that the plumber was on the way.
Hurrying home, I wondered how I could possibly be in the flow and trust the crap, let alone receive all this chaos! Apparently, my soul has a sense of humor because I turned onto the highway toward home to see that the car directly in front of me was the plumber’s van. Coming from a completely different direction with 20 miles and thousands of cars in between, what are the chances? I smiled as I followed him all the way home, encouraged that maybe somehow things were still unfolding perfectly.
We arrived and went to look at the derelict water heater. The guy collected some info, took some photos, and sent the repair estimate within the hour. Still trying to receive and go with the flow, I was expecting good news. What I got was an estimate for $10,000. Oh my! That was about five times what I expected to pay, so I started shopping online. Surely, after all the other remodeling work I’ve done around here, I could manage this project myself. In the middle of looking through a zillion options, one of the kids came to talk about the fight. They were still angry and frustrated, but after a 2+ hour family meeting, things were successfully resolved. With harmony restored, I returned to the water heater issue.
Going down to look at it again, I noticed a forgotten fuse box next to the tank. Odd. I had already checked the circuit breaker, but now I opened this “extra” box to see that – surprise! – both fuses were blown. And, lo and behold, sitting right next to them were two replacements! They must have been there since I moved in almost 15 years ago, and now their moment had come. I screwed them into the sockets, turned the power back on, and the water heater clicked to life. Happy dance of relief!
In the space of 24 hours, it was as if a pressure cooker had blown up in chaos around me, and then everything settled down again. The kids have a little more wisdom and peace with each other, work tasks are running smoothly, the laundry room is clear of flies, and – hallelujah! – the hot water is flowing.
Why am I telling you this story? Is it a tale of woe or saga of triumph? If the flow is so perfect, why does it seem so damn bumpy at times? And how the heck does one “receive” such a string of disasters?
The fact is that literally everything is here to serve me. But how I experience that service depends on my perspective. Geoff wrote of experiencing 97% of people being good, which is very similar to my own experience. However, someone else might come up with a very different percentage, and therefore experience, of other people. It all depends on one’s chosen perspective.
Here’s what I know about receiving: If I’m still classifying things as “wanted” and “not wanted,” I am not receiving.
To receive, I must stop protecting, selecting, and trying to keep the wrong stuff away and make the right stuff happen. With true receiving, there’s actually nothing that is wrong; there’s only how I’m choosing to perceive and experience it. When I accept what is as it is, and receive it all without resistance, that’s when things become magical. Meeting each moment of life as it is, receiving the problems and issues and delays and synchronicities as they happen, is the secret to experiencing life’s perfection. And if I can’t see the perfection? Well, I just keep watching because it’s always there.
The key is letting go of the idea that I have to manage life and make stuff happen, whether it’s stuff I want or don’t want. When I meet life as it is, then my energy – or the universe or my soul or whatever we call it – which already knows very well what I desire, can deliver it perfectly. When little me tries to manage things from my limited perspective, it doesn’t go very well, simply because “I” just don’t have the necessary information to do a good job.
It’s like wanting to go to town from my home in the mountains. Town is to the east. But if I insist on only going that direction, I’ll get nowhere fast. Fortunately, the map has a broader perspective and sends me west and south before turning east, and I get to town just fine. Receiving what is and trusting the flow is like turning on the map app of my soul. It knows where I want to go, the side attractions that I’ll enjoy, and the best routes to take. All I need to do is drive my car – i.e., participate in life – and trust the flow, even when there’s traffic and potholes and it looks like I’m going the wrong direction. My soul is holding the map, so I can just receive the experiences along the way, knowing it’s taking me exactly where I want to be.
When the water heater failed, I discovered that it’s about 40 years old, which is prehistoric in water heater years. Heck, the warranty expired in 1989! I’ve known for a while that it will eventually need to be replaced, so I decided to receive this whole experience as a kindly notice from my energy that “it’s time,” but without the crisis of having to go a week or two without hot water. Therefore, a new heater is scheduled to be installed in a couple days by a different plumber at a much more reasonable price. Nobody has to suffer through cold showers, I’m bringing my literal flow into this millennium, and can point to yet another example of life’s perfection.
My recipe for that perfection? Receive everything as it is, participate as needed, and watch it unfold.